parenthood What could be the root cause of the events I narrated in my previous script? If we find out the root cause, can we also find the remedy for it? Worried parents frequently contact me to talk with their children and guide them to proper direction. The direction which will lead their children towards ‘successful’ life! ‘Successful Life’, do you think a child would know meaning of this term? Of course not! The ‘successful life’, parents are talking about for their children, is nothing but what they expect their children should do. These are the expectations which a child should fulfill to stand in outer demanding world. Unfortunately our outer world demands exorbitant scores, a wealthy career and an exclusive life style to live ‘successful life’. Unfortunately we directly relate these criteria of ‘successful life’ to ‘happy life’. No wonder why parents are so much worried and horrified!
The confusion between ‘successful’ and ‘happy’ life is nothing but the perspective with which you are living your life. Look at the 1st event where the father is over-possessive about his daughter getting exorbitant scores, which every parent emphasizes now a days, it directly strengthens the wrong perspective. All parents know that only score is not the definite criterion. Your experience, talent, attitude, intention and principles propel you in long run. Many of us are aware of this unsaid truth. We all have experienced it in our journey from childhood to the revered positions we have achieved. The question is why can’t we LIVE what we KNOW? Scores will open the initial gate of challenging world but not give your child the key of ultimate gate. Think about the stress the child would be carrying while preparing for examination and of course during the examination. What if the child fails to achieve what he has been conditioned since the day he started preparing for the so called milestone in his life? What if he starts judging his future performance with the reference to his previous failure? What if he tags himself as an ‘incapable candidature’ for the most difficult competition of LIFE? To avoid all these acute questions there is only one solution. Change our perspective of looking at our child as a medium which would accomplish our unfulfilled dreams. Put on the lens which will let our child do what he wants in a way he wants to do. Let him know his potential, let him analyze his capacity of effective study, based on it let him decide his score target. That doesn’t mean we should give him/her a loose hand, guide your child in such a way that he would be able to self analyze his strengths and areas of improvement. Teach him how to set SMART goals and create action plans to achieve what he wants. Tell him how to stick to the roots in current degrading social values. Ultimately groom him to live by the eternal natural principles; love, honesty, knowledge, abundance and excellence.
So, dear ME as well as dear PARENT, there is nothing new in this ‘preaching’ article! We already know all this. This is the only way our parents have grew us up. I don’t remember my father ever told me to score this much to be a successful man! I wonder what would I have done, if he would have insisted me for the ‘90% above’ tagline. It’s simple I would not have been doing what I am passionate about. I would have just become one of the many mediocre followers who live for Survival and not for Excellence!
People…I know the 2nd event is still pending… I’l come to it..till then ponder over this thought I just shred!